"We all have them, that friend who is our "friend" yet secretly envies or
even hates us on the inside. First it starts with a few sly remarks
here and there "oh, you're going to wear THAT tonight?" Then escalates
to "I really can't stand that bish, I just hang around her because she
buys all the rounds at the bar". If you've found yourself in this
predicament more times than not, you may need a refresher course on
"Frenemies". Luckily for you, that's what I'm here for.."
Let's Start With The Basics
"Not Every Friend Is A "Frenemy">>> Just
because she may not agree with everything that you say, or call as much
as you'd like, or even approve of everyone you date, that doesn't make
her a potential Frenemy. In fact, it makes her human, and possibly the
best friend you could ever have. A good friend will not allow you to
make the same mistake twice....well, at least without trying to warn you
first. A good friend doesn't have to your identical twin and she
certainly shouldn't be the person you run to when you want to hear
"Yes". A true friend should be the person you run to when you want to
hear the truth. Beware of people who always tell you "yes"..they are
potentially setting you up for failure. Frenemies want to see you fail.
Who Are Your Frenemies?
Frenemies Want To Be The Closest To You>>>>
Do you have that new friend that you're not particularly close to but
for some reason she wants to get extremely close to you? Does she
randomly invite you out to dinner when you two only speak in passing?
Beware, she may have motives! Anyone who wants to be insanely close to
you after not showing any interest in you before is likely to be trying
to dig up dirt on you. Digging up dirt is one the things that a true
Frenemy lives for. Frenemies want to find any possible thing they can
use against you later on in the future. Any information you give them is
considered useful. If they can turn a positive into a negative, they
absolutely will.
Identifying Your Frenemies
It Doesn't Take Much For A Frenemy To Turn On You
>>>> If you get into a tiff with your friend for the first time and she uses
that opportunity to drag you under the bus and throw dirt on your name,
consider her a Frenemy. Frenemies aren't the type to mend broken
relationships. Since they day they met you they've been waiting for you
to mess up just so they can tell the world how awful you are. If you
ever come across that one friend who is quick to cancel you out, she was
never a true friend to begin with.
When Everything You Do Is Wrong, Maybe It's Not You >>>>If you
have that friend who constantly thinks everything you do in life is
wrong, maybe its not you. Sure you're a successful business woman but
according to your Frenemy you should be home with your child more. Your
house may be huge but your Frenemy thinks your car could use an upgrade.
A Frenemy will find the brass lining on every cloud your silver lining
once existed. Your best bet is to cut ties with them as soon as Frenemy
warning signs have come to light.
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